In a relations of boy/girlfriend or marriage, any of the two parts can do or say something that can hurt the one you love. Beyond the point if there was or not intention of causing emotional damage, when you understands that you must step back on your steps and ask for a sincere pardon, you are taking care of the other one,and this will make the different and improve the emotional ties.
We all can be mean, an Ass..h...e or obstinate at some point of a sentimental relation and with a word or comment "out of place", a higher tone of voice or an unfortunate action, to hurt the one who is next to us. It is possible that there has been intention of being cruel,or not, but the facts are "there is a problem to solve".
In this type of situations, the worst adviser is your ego, that one, who makes us think that we own the absolute truth and apologizes in front of the other one will be a sign of weakness . Nothing more wrong, if what we really wish is "feed our love".
The best thing, when you already pass the limits,and the relationship has been hurt because of an error or mistakes from our side, is take a little distance, to think with our heart ,not with your brain. Then it is necessary to sit down to talk sincerely and apologizing, without pleads or begs, but with the pride of believing in what we are trying to express. This is a very good exercise of humility that dignifies us with ourselves and proves to be more credible before our partner.
Until next time
Manny