Being "Separate or "Divorce" sometimes supposes coexisting with certain and most of the time unnecessary tensions, you want to see your children and to spend the biggest possible time with them, but, this wish turns out to be limited by the situation itself.
Several studies demonstrate that the children remember when they were small, since they were growing, and the most usual things you can even imaging,But...(this is a very good one) not the extravagant birthdays or vacation costing the parents high economic cost. They are the ordinary events in the little one's that create memory and experience.
Here you have ten ways to avoid being a weekend father:
1 • Involve yourself in the life of your children, remember the birthday's, significant events and other date's or events that are important for them.
1 • Involve yourself in the life of your children, remember the birthday's, significant events and other date's or events that are important for them.
2 • Promote the good communication between you and your children's.Always...(Important) tried to be there whenever they need you.
3 • You must be serious and believable in front of them,fulfills your commitments with them. If you say "Tomorrow at five o'clock I will call you", do it.Do not leave it for other day.
4 • The time you spend with the children's always have to be"quality time". Reserve that important time from your schedule.Remember that your children come to see you, not their toys.
5 • Sends small symbols or signs of your love and care to them, small notes, postcards, cards especially dedicated for them. Remind your children's that you are thinking about them all the time.
6 • Never plan work related activities or any other type like that, in the periods in which you must enjoy their company. Sometimes our daily work or occupations turn us away and we cannot fill with the promises of visit them. The time that you spend with them is the easies form to let your childens know, that they are the most important thing for you.
7 • Ask them what they want to do when they are with you.Incorporate their needs to your visits.
8 • Do not imply them with thoughts of hate or resentment towards you ex.
9 • Never comment with your childrens on how bad was the economic damages from their mother divorce has caused to you. Understands that your time with them is precious, and they are not guilty in any matters of those unfortunate events.
10 • Your son is a fruit of love. Make him feel that,even when you are separated or divorce, he is the number one priority on your life. Being an affectionate father needs persistence in the reiteration of your acts. Make your children responsibles of their own actions and behaviors.
Putting in execution these simple practices, you will improve the quality of the time that you spend with them, as well as your relationship, much more than if you are opening constantly your wallet.
3 • You must be serious and believable in front of them,fulfills your commitments with them. If you say "Tomorrow at five o'clock I will call you", do it.Do not leave it for other day.
4 • The time you spend with the children's always have to be"quality time". Reserve that important time from your schedule.Remember that your children come to see you, not their toys.
5 • Sends small symbols or signs of your love and care to them, small notes, postcards, cards especially dedicated for them. Remind your children's that you are thinking about them all the time.
6 • Never plan work related activities or any other type like that, in the periods in which you must enjoy their company. Sometimes our daily work or occupations turn us away and we cannot fill with the promises of visit them. The time that you spend with them is the easies form to let your childens know, that they are the most important thing for you.
7 • Ask them what they want to do when they are with you.Incorporate their needs to your visits.
8 • Do not imply them with thoughts of hate or resentment towards you ex.
9 • Never comment with your childrens on how bad was the economic damages from their mother divorce has caused to you. Understands that your time with them is precious, and they are not guilty in any matters of those unfortunate events.
10 • Your son is a fruit of love. Make him feel that,even when you are separated or divorce, he is the number one priority on your life. Being an affectionate father needs persistence in the reiteration of your acts. Make your children responsibles of their own actions and behaviors.
Putting in execution these simple practices, you will improve the quality of the time that you spend with them, as well as your relationship, much more than if you are opening constantly your wallet.
Until Next time
Manny