There is no substitute for the love,participation and the commitment of a father.
A new social problem is hurting the North American society and is spread already to several countries: the absence of the father in the family.
More than 40 % of the North American children are growing without knowing what it means to have a father. And new investigations that examine what factors influence the relation of the men with his children, have demonstrated that the father marks a big difference in the life of the children. The United States Department of Health and Human Services is very incisive in affirming that “ the parents constitute a significant factor in the life of his children ”, and “ simply there is no substitute for the love, the participation and the commitment of a father. ”
Research of the University of Maryland found that childrens who are provided with the paternal figure have a major capacity of learning, major autoesteem and do not present so many symptoms of depression as the children who grow without the father.
This scientists interviewed 855 children from five deferents states. Those with parents in their lives were qualified with big skills to learn. We must not surprise with the results,according to those expert. ' The only thing what we all must do is to ask the small one frankly ', pointed out James Levine from the Family and Work Institute .'All the children answer that the presence of their fathers marks a big difference in their life '.Unfortunately, it seems that the phenomenon “ children without father ”, it is not a only problems in the United States and it would not be exaggerated to affirm that this emptying of the figure of the father and the parenthood might change the face of the society into a future.A notable change already is perceived in relation to the figure and the role of the man in the society, which starts being seen as something superfluous or annoying. The masculinity looks as something negative, almost a crime and treats the man with suspicion and, even, with hostility, as the responsible of all the woman calamities and the rupture of the family.
Does every child need a father?
Although this should be incredible, many current voices answer that " not " or “ not necessarily ” .But, not to have the father as a reference ,is already a problem, not believing that it is necessary to have it, is double problem. And this does not have nothing to do with morality, but with the same anthropological structure of the human person. Like maternity, the parenthood has a biological dimensions as (simply human life does not exist if there is no fertilization of the feminine ovule for the masculine sperm) a socials too.
We learn to be persons seeing our father and our mother. The father teaches the child to be a father,"not biologically" (that happens naturally) but social and anthropological (even Margaret Mead, the famous American anthropologist icon of the feminists, admits that (learning of the parenthood is one of the samples of civilization of the man) .The child who doesn't known "how to be a father ", will not be able to take care, protect their own child and it will be, presumably more violent, and more anti-social.
Could be that the domestic violence that is stamped every day on the news perhaps has his root in the syndrome of the absent father?
Are these violent mens, "children without father", how many children now, have learned the real roll of the man and the father in the family ever?.
Probably not...and that is sad,especially when a portion of those 40% of children without fathers,they do have a father who die to see them and take care of them,simply they suffer some kind of retaliation from their mothers,with the vague excuse "You abandoned us"or "You are behind child support" or maybe "hey,...I already met somebody,and I,m not want to make him jealous".
This "Mothers" think their punish the father with this attitude, but reality is,that who their are really hurting are the children,and not realize how important is the Father image in your children life,and one day they will confront you and ask questions.
Manny